TRYING TO GET CLEAN WITH A PARTNER
When two people are in a committed relationship but do not have shared recovery goals, it can lead to a number of problems. One of the most common issues that arise is when one partner wants to quit using drugs or alcohol, while the other wants to continue using. This can create a range of conflicts, including trust issues, communication breakdowns, and emotional distance. The partner who wants to quit using drugs or alcohol might feel unsupported and frustrated by their partner's continued use.
They may also struggle with their own recovery journey, as they feel their loved one is not taking their sobriety seriously. Meanwhile, the partner who wants to continue using might feel misunderstood and judged by their partner, leading to feelings of resentment and defensiveness. These conflicts can be further compounded when the couple has different levels of understanding or belief in addiction and recovery. One partner may be more open to seeking professional help, while the other may not see the need for it.
This can lead to feelings of isolation and confusion for both partners. To overcome these challenges, it's important for both partners to be open and honest about their feelings and goals. They should try to find common ground and be willing to compromise. Seeking outside professional help, such as couples therapy or individual therapy, can also be beneficial in navigating these challenges. Ultimately, it's important for both partners to have a mutual understanding and respect for each other's recovery journeys, even if they have different goals or paths.