DEALING WITH THE PAST
Dealing with the past can be a difficult and challenging task, especially if it involves traumatic experiences or mistakes we have made. However, it is an essential step to move forward and live a fulfilling life. One strategy to deal with the past is to acknowledge the feelings and emotions associated with it. This means allowing yourself to feel the pain, anger, or guilt that may arise from revisiting past events.
For
those who repeatedly experienced episodes of decompression or relapsed
when being asked to "do an inventory" or a particular "step" that's
usually a good sign that something needs to be explored with a qualified professional who advertises experience in working with clients who have trauma experience.
Being asked to rip the band-aids off of your deepest wounds and confide them to a stranger is NOT a one-size-fits-all approach to recovery!
It can be helpful to write down or talk about your feelings with someone you trust, such as a therapist or a trudging buddy. Another approach is to focus on the present moment and take actions that align with your values and aspirations. Engaging in activities that give you a sense of purpose and satisfaction can boost your self-esteem and help you move beyond past mistakes or trauma.
It is also important to forgive yourself and others for past mistakes or hurts. This does not mean forgetting or minimizing what has happened, but rather acknowledging the pain and choosing to let go of resentment and bitterness. Forgiveness can be a powerful pathway to healing and growth. Lastly, seeking support from a person or a community can be invaluable in dealing with the past.
Connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences can provide a sense of belonging and empathy. There are different resources available, including support groups, hotlines, and online forums. Dealing with the past can be a challenging process, but it is an opportunity to heal, grow, and live a meaningful life. By acknowledging and addressing our feelings, staying connected to our values, and seeking support, we can move beyond past struggles and build a better future.