For those who've come a long way and have a long way to go:

Whenever we're lucky enough to have a butterfly land on us and rest its wings:

If we were a safe and supportive and positive environment.. our guests will remember that.

And if we were not... they will remember that too.

We're leaving the lights on for you in case you'd ever like to come back and rest your wings here again.

Please do you your part to ensure our visitors remember their experience here fondly.



Some Quotes About Community

"It's not a matter of whether or not addicts know how to save their lives. The question is, whether they know that their lives are worth saving." -- Unknown

"The splendor of the rose and the whiteness of the lily do not take away the perfume of the violet or the delightful simplicity of the daisy. I understand that if all flowers wanted to be roses, nature would lose her springtime beauty, and the fields would no longer be decked out with little wild flowers. " -- St Therese

"I can only look at the seemingly limited space under the tent and think either it's my job to change people so they fit or it's my job to extend the roof so that they fit. Either way, it's misguided because it's not my tent. It's God's tent." -- Nadia Bolz-Weber, Pastrix

You Will Be Found (Excerpt)

Have you ever felt like nobody was there?
Have you ever felt forgotten in the middle of nowhere?
Have you ever felt like you could disappear?
Like you could fall, and no one would hear?
Well, let that lonely feeling wash away
Maybe there's a reason to believe you'll be okay
'Cause when you don't feel strong enough to stand
You can reach, reach out your hand
And oh, someone will coming running
And I know, they'll take you home
Even when the dark comes crashing through
When you need a friend to carry you
And when you're broken on the ground
You will be found
So let the sun come streaming in
'Cause you'll reach up and you'll rise again
Lift your head and look around
You will be found
You will be found
You will be found
You will be found
You will be found

Family

You asked me what family is
And I think of family as community
I think of the spaces where you don't have to shrink yourself
Where you don't have to pretend or to perform
You can fully show up and be vulnerable
And in silence, completely empty and
That's completely enough
You show up, as you are, without judgment, without ridicule
Without fear or violence, or policing, or containment
And you can be there and you're filled all the way up
We get to choose our families
We are not limited by biology
We get to make ourselves
And we get to make our family

Jewelry

So, like, my favorite images are the ones where
Someone who isn't supposed to be there
Who's like in a space where we were not ever welcomed in, where we were not invited
Yet we walk in and we show all the way up
People try to put us down by saying
"She's doing the most," or "He's way too much."
But, like, why would we want to do the least?

... My eternal resolution will be "to do too much."

Runnin

So, you were, like, talking about this idea of being called upon
And for some reason the first thing I heard was, like this
Faint, irritating, incessant buzzer
And I think I heard it three times in my life
The first was, was within myself
Um, to stop pretending
To stop performing in ways that people wanted me to
To actually show up for myself
And to be myself
 

Source: "You Will Be Found" Songwriters: Benj Pasek / Justin Paul

Source: "Family," "Jewelry," and "Runnin" are voiceover segments from Janet Mock, featured on tracks bearing the same name(s) on Blood Orange's 2018 CD "Negro Swan."